FORGETING A BIRTHDAY

Every year for our birthdays we always get excited because we are supposed to get nice things from the ones we love. A nice romantic dinner, a night out on the town flowers what ever to make you feel extra special. Or there are some of us who celebrate it with friends and family. Every year without fail my children make a fuss days before my birthday even though they really can’t buy me anything but they like to make me breakfast or go out with me to breakfast (my treat of course lol) and then the whole cake thing. Every year like clock work the man who lives with me my husband conveniently forgets my birthday or looks for something to be angry at me so he can have a reason not to celebrate my birthday. What prick right? Do you know how it feels to see my coworkers or friends get cards with flowers followed by dinner and a gift? And anticipating that it will be different he will get it but nothing happens? I hate that like an asshole every year like clock work I know when its his birthday and I go the extra mile to get him a gift or do a party and invite his friends. So it’s the year 2009 I’m thinking hey 21 again he finally shows signs of having his head out his ass. Been working steady no complaining about how he got dealt a fucked up hand in life lately. One of his favorite let me be mad days will consist of how life sucks yada yada yada. Really because I’ve heard the stories from his cousins who at one time were close until they got married. He was a spoiled lil fuck who got his way because he was paid to keep his mouth shut by mom and dad who were running around like fools. Well any way I wake up Sept 5th is my day I’m expecting a “Happy Birthday Hon see you later got to go to work.” Nothing. He looks at me and gets dressed and doesn’t say a peep. Leaves out my door without saying shit. Ok maybe its too early but I had that gut feeling either he forgot or he was being a dick. I go to breakfast with my kids who all wish me Happy Birthday and I instructed them not to say anything to him. Don’t mention my birthday I wanted to see how long it would take him to say it or lets see if he brings me something after work. So my kids and I have a full day of haircuts and walking around shopping for school supplies. We come back home. I started to look at my cell no call. No missed call. Plenty of texts from sisters and friends. Nope nothing from him. I go out with my oldest daughter to cash her lil check. And we come back. Again I instructed her not to mention anything. I get back home again and sit on the couch to watch tv with the kids. He walks in with his friends and I say “Hi hon.” He says “hi” and keeps it moving to the basement to talk shit with his boys. Still no Happy Birthday. Ok Ok maybe he’s just gonna forget again. So I’m texting my Sis Janet and she is like “that son of a bitch still ain’t say Happy Birthday? What a dick!” So I text her yep nothing. Now while I’m texting he’s laying in the bed next to me and my younger daughter who is 11 is next to me and she is looking at me and she mouths to me nothing? Nope nothing. All of a sudden he goes “so you celebrating this month or next?” OHHH hell no so he does know he did remember and he didn’t say 2 simple words? I kept cool and didn’t say shit. Now why the question of next month? My parents who were too scared to tell me about my real mother never looked at my birth certificate and celebrated my birthday on Oct 5th. Imagine that since birth I was forgotten. Wow. So as my real mother surfaces and shit I get to see my real birth certificate. It was Sept 5th the whole time. Its sounds fucked up but it was an honest mistake. I at least got a Happy Birthday. The following day my friend Olga came to pick me and my sister-in-law up and we went to the casino. While me and Melika had lost all of our earnings. Olga winded up winning 340 bucks. So from the casino we went to the movies and to dinner. Thanks my other sista from another mama. I got home and he was asleep. Fuck him I had a good time and it sure as hell wasn’t because of him. He really had hurt my feelings. A Happy Birthday doesn’t cost anything. I understand that we had just paid rent but there is no excuse for him pulling that stunt. He wakes up to ask me “did you win anything?“ “Nope”. His response “broke ass bitch”. Wow right? All this happened over the weekend. Monday comes and I tell him “I’m mad at you. I can’t believe that you did what you did for my birthday. Absolutely nothing.” He was like “well if you didn’t treat me like shit I wouldn’t have done that to you. I got to act like an asshole and then you treat me nice.” “Bullshit! How can you say I treated you like shit we didn’t go to bed angry at each other we didn’t argue nothing. And I get this from you? I don’t deserve that and for you to make up shit in your head about a my behavior is even more bullshit. But Karma is a bitch and it will bite you.” I know what it was too he got mad because I wasn’t giving him no ass. Well guess what last longer than 3 min and then talk to me about sex. I hate to waste my time. Or it could be that he checked his emails at work and discovered that I had busted him signing up with sex4singles.com. Yeah his profile changed from married man looking for threesomes and just sex to gay and loving it up the ass. Lmao! Wow come to think about it I think that’s exactly what it was. But he knows he can’t bring it up because he got no wins on that one. Ahhh yes and Karma did come to bite him. He did some airbrush job and the lady was anal about the work he did. Nothing wrong but you know those people who want to just not pay so they look for excuses that its not really what they want? Yeah well he did a big job and it was a nice job but she acted like a bitch and said she wasn’t happy after she took the fucking truck he airbrushed and decided that nah I don’t like it. She actually took it home and called him the next day talk about um well no its not what I really want this is not right that is not right. Um yeah he lost money almost a G. Told him Karma was a bitch. I love that bitch!

Teenage mothers

So Today one of my lovely sisters said someone was poppin off at the mouth about teenage pregnancies and how I guess they don’t know how to take care of their kids? Not every one falls under that category so all You dee dee dee’s need to get schooled. Some people may not make the best choice and have babies when they have no business having babies. Like the ones that have one to make a fashion statement or just have one to tie a guy down or have one just to defy mom. I mean the list goes on and on. But there are those that do get pregnant and maybe it was not planned but I give it to those teenage moms and teenage dads who do their job even if it wasn’t the time to have a baby. I’ve seen girls have babies go to school and finish get a diploma get a college degree and some who just finish high school get a job and work to take care of them babies. We also have some who just go to work and take care of their children and if it means that they can’t go to school then they can’t. Every persons situation is different. Lets think about those who don’t have a good support system and have to go to work. They do it and they take good care of their kids. Its hard when you don’t have that support system. Now for those who do have a good support system they get to finish school mom and dad are there to help out. Great wonderful. But lets concentrate on young ladies who do take the initiative and do right. For example a girl who has a baby. The father walked away because he wasn’t ready and well its your problem. She goes to work she gets a place and no is there to help her out yet people who swear their life is squeaky clean just don’t understand why she opened her legs and she must be a horrible mother because she is young and don’t know what to do. Really you name me one female who knew what to do the minute she became a mother. Not even one who was old enough to have a kid. So we are taught to be who we are and it is up to us to take them lessons and show the world what we have learned. Some us work and work and have no time for going out and bullshiting like some of these girls who have their mom take care of their kids while they party and shit. No we don’t have the luxury we go to work and come home and take care of our kids and do what we have to. Having kids makes us grow up quick because some of us do have that common sense. We know our babies don’t have no one else but us. Our babies didn’t have a choice in being here. We made the conscious decision to bring them into this world. So it is our job to make sure that we only we are the ones to right by them. Also look at the picture maybe this girl is doing what she is supposed and if she is then great. All them people who look and stare and say omg look at that girl she’s just a baby. Remember don’t judge a book by its cover. Yes she may be young and maybe she is struggling but if she doing it then props to her. Its not easy being young and responsible. So my hats off to all the young mamas who are out there doing it. Really doing it. Bless all of you for being wonderful mothers.